Normalize every part of parenthood

Since 2021 happened, I've showered my hair 3 times so far.

Parent shamers and irrelevant people, especially if you've never been an "active" parent (IYKYK), who comment things that don't make anyone or any situation better, this is for you

If you have nothing better to do than nitpick, go away.

I've never had the biggest patience, and I've just been playing deaf most times not to start an argument but if you trigger my trigger, you will get bit.

So if you know you're doing that, STOP IT.

Parents who are taking care of their children don't need your unhelpful words, unsolicited advices, your "back then I..." experiences.

You know what we need?

To eat

To bathe

To sleep

Unless you've supported in any way to get us to have that, you don't get to have a say in my/our life.

You see, I'd rather have a baby who gets to sleep 8-12 hours so they stay happy and healthy - even if it means holding them for the majority of those hours.

I'd rather have a child who is happy to be home by playing with them and letting them put all their toys everywhere even if it means I rarely get to see the house clean.

It's a constant inner struggle and battle but the answers are always clear.

Kids don't ask to be born, so I'm not going to let them adjust to a certain standard of living. They'll get a lot of lessons as they grow up from people that have nothing better to do than judge others.

As a parent, I want them to have a firm mental and emotional foundation. Right now, they're emotional, mental, and physical wellness matters the most. Even if it means me being tired, groggy, and forgetting to do this and that.

Parents have a lot on their plate to make sure that we don't raise another generation of assholes.

So to all the hands on mamas and dads out there, you do you!

Didn't shower today?

Haven't slept yet?

Have a messy house?

You're not alone!

I'm sure your kids have been fed, well rested, played with, and are absolutely loved. That's what matters

Why we put up with these? because we know it's not forever.

Babies/kids grow up. And I'd hate to be "that parent" their own kid wouldn't be proud to call their own.